Every day there is some new article directed at relationships regarding this generation. Chivalry is dead. Dating no longer exists. Love is lost. Getting played. Men have stopped trying, and the list goes on. While I think these posts are valid and speak the truth, I feel that they don’t project much hope for those who are looking for the real thing. Not only that, but they take away from those who are the exception. Yes, unfortunately things have changed. Gone are the days of hand written letters, phone calls to hear their voice, and having to actually see the person face to face in order to know what they wearing that day. The vast amount of technology has made it easy to meet and connect with many people.
People now look for quantity over quality. Having a few on the side has become more thrilling than having the one. If you not playing the game then you not interesting enough, not exciting enough. If you don’t sleep together almost immediately then you considered virginal, boring, and more often than not replaced by someone who is already next on the list.
Every person is entitled to live their life the way they want to. If you are one of the above and it makes you happy then that’s good for you. It doesn’t make you a bad person, as long as you are playing with those who play the same game. If you are playing with those who are the exception, the ones who long for the real thing, the ones who believe in honesty, loyalty, and old fashioned dating, then that makes you someone who should question their morals.
And so I speak for those who are the exception, for those who wear their heart on their sleeve. The ones who don’t play games, who say how they feel, who know what they want. You beautiful people will be played, you will be hurt, you will be victim to the game, but you will come out on top. Why? Because you see the best in people. You don’t guard your heart and you don’t give up. No matter how many times you interact with the generations players, you still believe that those genuine few are out there, and all you are is one person closer to finding them. You learn what to look for, what to stay away from. You learn what it is that you don’t want and you become even clearer on what it is that you do want.
No matter how much negativity you read about the dating game, no matter how many times you hear the same story, know that the genuine ones do exist- you may just need to change the way you have been looking.